This post is part 10 of the series 31 Days of Lessons I Learned in Therapy.
I have trust issues.
I thought that I could not trust others because I had no way to be sure that my trust would not be broken or abused at some point in the future. So I built walls and patrolled them with vigilance.
There was just one problem.
Living without trust means living with your guard up at all times.
Take it from me- that is a stressful way to live.
Being constantly on guard means:
- always looking for danger
- seeing others as potential enemies
- never dropping your defenses
- being unable to relax and enjoy life
- being unable to form deeply intimate relationships
In therapy, I learned a concept that radically changed my life.
I cannot control or foresee what will happen in the future. Neither do I have to trust for all time. Instead, I can choose to trust just for today. And then choose again tomorrow… and the day after that.
Have you struggled with trusting? What has helped you learn to trust?
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